What Happened in My First Moments as a Mother … of Twins

 

I have loved a lot in my life.

My Mom, who was the first soul I knew, became the most inspiring force in my world and is the person I still tell (almost) everything. She gave me life and taught me how grow into that life.

Mom and me in 1971

Then there were the pig-tailed, pajama clad friends with whom I made pinky promises atop my blue flowered comforter as a young girl. We would attempt to lie awake all night chatting and making up hand-shakes in itchy-soft nightgowns. I loved those first friends with the complete, giggling innocence of childhood and the expectation that life would always be that yummy.

Then there were the silly boys who came and went during my teen years, whose freckled faces I loved so much I thought I would die. And I swear I did … a couple of times. At least. That goes for my twenties, too – when I loved and lost – beyond my comprehension – and then tried to love again, being forced to reinvent its meaning.

Then there are the friends I have loved even more as age has deepened my soul’s affection for unbreakable female bonds . Many of them have become like family and stood in the gap that others have left behind.

With my besties, Shana & Rebecca

And then came my husband, who finally showed me that faithfulness and commitment were not only possibilities in a relationship, but solid expectations. I found out that love could have secure roots and uproarious laughter at the same time.

But one day I learned a new kind of love. Read more

What Consumes Your Mind, Controls Your Life

“What consumes your mind, controls your life.”

What you decide to obsess over in your mind, ruminating … reviewing … rewinding … will ultimately be what controls you.

It will be the CENTER SCREEN of your life.

And unless you change your mind – and change the channels – you will continue to see the frustrating flicker of that thing, that face, that obsession because you can’t seem to move past whatever it is that has a hold on you.

If you are nodding your head, you have been there – or you are there right now. You know what focus has taken control of your thoughts, your dreams and your decisions. And deep down, you know that you know that you know that you need to find a way to push it away … push it out of the control tower of your mind.

You feel your energy being depleted and your time being sucked away, but for some reason you have held on. And it just might be the biggest secret you are carrying around. When you are honest with yourself, however, you know none of it is good for you at all. Not one bit. In fact, it is hurting you time after time after time.

It is taking over your heart, hijacking your once vibrant mind and eclipsing the creative energy that used to flow from your soul. And likely someone close to you has said, “Do you realize how much time you spend talking about that/him/her/them?”

Do you?   Read more

Do Not Let the Behavior of Others Do This To You

“Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” Dalai Lama

When I read this quote by the Dalai Lama, I immediately saw two independent pieces:

1) ‘the behavior of others’

2) ‘your inner peace’

They are separated in the sentence because they exist in two different places in space, unless you choose to let the two swirl together and take on the energy of the other. And so the Dalai Lama offers you the most empowering reminder between these two:

1) The behavior of others is not your burden.

2) You have the power to choose if something destroys your inner peace.

POWERFUL. I am talking about YOU – YOU ARE POWERFUL.

You have the authority over your own peace. You were born to nurture and care for the strong, peaceful spirit inside of you – as it was also born to nurture and care for you. While we can feel wounded when we are betrayed and otherwise not treated as our authentic selves, it is up to us what happens to our peace next. Read more

I Want to Know You … And I Want to Be Known

I am here because I want to be with you and get to know you.

And I want to be known.

Known for who I am on the inside instead of what you see on the outside.

Known in a sense that you ask about more than where I work and where I went to school. Known in a sense that you understand where my passion sleeps and why my dreams are so.

Known in a sense that when you walk away from here you can say “She is that kind of person” and use beautifully true words to describe who I really am. Because you listened. And I listened to you.

Let’s not do that thing that I am so tired of doing. Let’s not surround ourselves with the vapor of meaningless conversation that will eventually settle to the floor and disappear in a shade of gray dust long after we are gone.

You look lovely tonight, but please don’t stand here in your shiny shoes and tell me where they are from and spark about what designer is wrapped around you because that is not why I am here. Let’s not dwell on the specifics of things or the pulp of last night’s gossip … because that will only leave me here with a feeling of emptiness and stagnancy, and my spirit is aching for something to rise to meet it. Read more

Why You Should Have Moments This Weekend

Look past those things that stressed you out about this week … about Monday’s meeting … about Wednesday’s bad news … about Thursday’s change of plans … and try to rest in some moments today, tomorrow, and into the weekend.

Grant yourself some reprieve from the worry as you turn the corner into Friday, Saturday and Sunday.

Not because you are in denial or are avoiding life. But because you want to be present to being where you are in the MOMENT – where you are PLANTED right now.

Because, remember, things will change over the hours on Monday, Tuesday & Wednesday, and the worries will change. You cannot predict what will come or what blessings are on their way. So let go of trying to figure it all out now.

Some things will work themselves out … some things will surprise you with success … and some things will not go as planned. Your obligation is to do your best in the present and believe that you can handle what comes in the future.

 But that is not for you to solve today – because YOU CAN’T.

 Trust that your hard work is good ENOUGH.

 Trust that your talent is purposeful ENOUGH.

 Trust that your intuition is wise ENOUGH.

Rest in that trust.

Be PRESENT to the life and the love that is around you as the weekend opens its doors and calls you into its open rooms. Sit on the couch, walk in the fresh air and catch up with someone you have not seen in a while.

Be planted in those moments. They are what hold your gifts.

 

© 2016 Doctor Karin Luise