Raised in a conservative, Christian evangelical home with a juvenile judge for a father and a mother who eventually became a Presbyterian pastor, I was taught that communicating with deceased loved ones was ‘demonic,’ ‘of the occult’ and not an option for Christians. We could only talk to God, Jesus and when we were little, our Guardian Angel.
Years later, I became an author and a licensed therapist, dedicated to clinical work, research and helping those who were suffering. I myself had suffered many losses and set-backs over the years, eventually becoming a twice-divorced, single mother of three who had to begin her life all over again.
The answers that I needed could not be found in the fundamental, fear-based religion of my youth – I knew there had to be more . . . or what would the reason be for it all?
Then, a soul awakening blew the lid off my world in 2014. A loved one took her life on my watch, and I was devastated beyond anything I could write here. The experience of that loss was about to change my life completely.
Even though I knew I was wading through traumatic grief, I knew something was not right. Or, at least, it was not familiar.
Every layer of my being felt different, and I could feel that something was unsettling, in the air around me – it felt like something was attached to me that I could not shake. I struggled to understand what was going on with me, as I started suffering physically, emotionally and spiritually – and those around me started getting worried.
Then I found out exactly what was going on.
Turns out, she had not crossed over in spirit at all. Because of the situation leading to her passing, she was still deeply struggling, and she was staying around me. She needed help. I could feel her energy more strongly than anything I had ever felt in my life. But I was also feeling the pain she was in – it took over my entire being. I needed someone to help me.
I visited a shaman and discovered that my loved one was not only around me and communicating with me, but she needed help crossing over.
Immediately after getting this information, I knew I had to help both of us. She needed healing, I needed freedom, and I had to trust that I was being divinely led to experience something that was beyond my human understanding.
That day, with the advice of the shaman and guidance from my own spirit, I performed a ceremony with her in the front seat of my car (in a hotel parking lot!), to help her find the peace and permission to let go of her pain and cross over.
It was a transcendental experience for me as I saw her soul leave the Earthly realm, and I received gifts that I had long ago repressed.
When I realized what was happening to me, I cracked wide open and supernatural experiences started flooding in. The portals to another dimension unlocked, and communication with the non-physical world flooded in.
I immediately started visiting mediums, spiritual teachers and intuitives to learn how to connect to this higher vibration, protect myself and hone my spiritual practice. Over the next 5 years, I took courses, read books and watched countless trainings on spiritual communication and working with energy for the Higher Good.
My life completely changed, to say the least. I went from pastor’s daughter to full on clairvoyant/clairsentient medium. Everyone around me was like, WTH?! But I knew this was a calling from deep inside me, and I could not go back to my old beliefs.
I soon realized, without a shadow of a doubt that loved ones who have died did not ‘die’ at all – they simply transitioned from physical to spiritual form. The soul is eternal, and you can bet that the ones who cross over want to communicate with those that they love. They just needed an open soul to do it.
As I started practicing mini-readings for people, I realized that I could drop more easily into spiritual communication when I was not worried about what people would think.
In essence, I was best when fear and ego were pushed to the side. I wanted to get past being nervous about how ‘good’ I was or how in tune my spirit was at picking up the right messages for people. I wanted to learn to TRUST. I realized I needed to practice with total strangers.
Lo and behold, without planning it at all, I found that the perfect place for me to practice was – you guessed it – in Ubers. No joke. I was relaxed. There was no expectation. I was not worried about what they would think, and when I got out of the car, there was no reason for second-guessing. So, I finally did it one night.
There I was in the Uber on the way home from dinner, talking to my driver about his music career and how he was confused about his journey. I relaxed into listening and felt myself connect. Then, as is usual when I open up, a wave of chills shuddered down the left side of my body where the empty backseat was next to me.
I knew a deceased loved one of the driver’s was in the car with us, and that loved one knew that I was open to sensing their energy. I am clairvoyant and clairsentient, which basically means I know things intuitively and can pick up on spiritual energy and emotion very easily.
So, I will feel the presence of a soul near me, and I am usually flooded with feelings of higher vibration, filled with expansion and peace – which is what the soul is passing to me.
Basically they are saying, “I am so excited that you are picking up on me! I want to tell my loved one that they are not alone and that I am supporting them from over here! Do not be afraid – all is well – we are all here in love and full appreciation for what is about to happen!”
I can choose in that moment whether to close it off (which I rarely do) or open my spirit to visions and messages as they flow into my consciousness. As I relax, I say a silent prayer of protection over us, asking that only those beings of the White Light of God be allowed with us. This is a mandatory request that must be honored in the spirit realm.
Next, I tune into the origin of the energy first – Mother’s side? Father’s side? Male? Female? Relative? Often, it is a grandparent, but I have also had parents, cousins, unborn siblings and, of course, guides and angels come through. This particular time, it was grandmother energy.
I always make sure that the driver is okay with me tapping in, so I will ask an initial question to get a read on their comfort level.
To this day, every single driver has welcomed the reading and told me afterwards that they are incredibly moved by the experience and completely blown away. Having a spiritual guidance reading with someone like me can be a life-changing experience.
This is why I continue to do it – I love making a difference in people’s lives and bringing them hope – so does their spirit team. We both get to experience the most incredible high frequency energy and feel on Cloud 9 when the reading is complete – it is a blessing for both of us.
It is also meaningful to know that there is always divine arrangement regarding who my driver is when a reading is called in . . . no coincidences. Even in an Uber.
We are all spiritual beings co-creating our human experiences. On a soul level, we arrange everything that we are ready to receive, and the Universe coordinates rendezvous and perfect timing in our favor.
So, on that night, when the Uber driver took a pause, I said, “Do you know that you have a grandmother around you? A Grandmother – maybe on your Mom’s side? Is she still alive or has she passed away?” (I always check!)
While sometimes I have to fine tune what I am receiving, and sometimes I don’t know exactly who is with us, we are always guided to knowing who it is by talking through it. I like to work with people conversationally through a spiritual reading because their Higher Self is also helping me tune in, and the information they pass along helps me connect more deeply to the spiritual energy.
The driver started nodding, and said, “Yes, yes, my grandmother passed away when I was 12 – I feel like she is around me. I have felt her around me.” He tilted his rearview mirror in my direction, surely wondering what I was all about and WTH was actually happening behind him.
“Yep,” I told him, “she is, and she is actually here with us right now. So . . . I am a medium and am picking up on her energy. I can feel her and sense how excited she is to let you know how supported you are. Is that okay with you if I tune in?” The answer is always YES.
Next, I will get a wave of beautiful energy and images in my mind about the person’s life.
This particular time, she was showing me images of a little boy playing in the yard, happy and loved – beautiful memories that they shared together. She reassured him she was okay, and I got an image of a grandfather and her side-by-side, which meant he was in spirit too, and they were together. The driver confirmed he had passed away a few years prior.
Then she sent me images of the driver’s life as it was unfolding, opportunities that were showing up, and the number 3 as a timeline. I asked through my spirit – 3 weeks? 3 days? 3 months? “3 months” came through strongly, and she showed me doors opening and hands shaking, exchanging a paper contract.
I let the driver know that within 3 months a huge door would open to him with a contract that would further his career and that she was helping to make that happen.
A flood of love and support flowed in, as I passed along messages to the driver as he pulled into my driveway.
We sat for an extra 15 minutes talking about the guidance and processing his fears and new hope about what was up ahead. He felt so good about the confirmation that she was around him and turned around with tears in his eyes to thank me. I told him, as I always do, that there was no coincidence we were matched up that night and that this information was divinely sent to him in perfect timing.
And so it has been for the past 2 years as I have gotten in and out of Ubers. When Spirit comes through and I am in a space to receive the guidance, we both get gratefully surprised by what unfolds.
It has been my ultimate pleasure to be able to co-create communication with the drivers that Spirit leads me too because I know that the Universe is always working for us – and so are our loved ones.
So, if you are an Uber driver, and you happen to see me swoop into your car on a Friday night, you might be in for some Spirit Talk from a former Bible teacher turned Medium – it’s who I am and what I do.
We were meant to connect on this journey together.