Here’s To Loving You …

Just want to check in with everyone and let you know that I am so sorry for my ‘leave of absence’ here on the website. I have missed writing with you, reflecting and being together on this journey.

Where have I been?

An average day … finishing a book chapter in carpool line.

I have been busy writing my book “Fatherless Daughters” with co-author, Denna Babul, which will be due to the publisher very soon. This has been a year when an intern, a wife, a mini-me and an assistant would have all been more useful than deodorant in August. Ew, right? But if you had been following me around lately, you would agree.

Juggling the book with 3 little kids, a crazy-and-wonderful-as-Grandma-Maxine dog and a persistent load of laundry that touches the ceiling on Sundays … I am just trying to get by (yes, I have spot-cleaned more hamper-pulled clothes for my kids just before school than anyone needs to know).

Thankfully, I have survived on meditation, prayer, old Oprah reruns, phone conversations with friends and time giggling in the bed with the kids after story time. (Okay, red wine & chocolate have been mixed in there too … I’m only human & need a break once and again.)

So I did squeeze in a weekend for a girls’ trip to LA – but I wrote during the daytime & needed the fresh air!

Somehow, I know you understand. The thing is with life, there is never truly enough time and space to tackle the entire opposing team. You have to put PRIORITIES around you and reserve your energy for what needs to be taken down first. Those people that love you will still be there when you get back. And those of us who love ourselves have learned to give ourselves permission to take things one tackle at a time.

So, for now, I’ll get back to the final chapters of the book, get the kids’ clothes out for school tomorrow and look forward to one more productive month of rewrites. After which …I intend on coming back to you full swing. I have so much to tell you!!

Psssst … A window into our book research: In our survey of over 1,000 fatherless women, more than half of them reported that their biggest fear in life is: NOT FEELING LOVED.

Boy, can we relate.

Here’s to loving you,
Karin

The Sea Speaks to the Soul … “Hold On”

Have you ever had nature speak to you? Have you ever gotten quiet, asked for a message, and sat still until she spoke inspiration into your soul?

Yep, me too.

I am at the beach for a few days with my family, hoping to soak in the sea’s peace and energy to gain some restoration from a very difficult summer. Life has brought a lot of loss and pain lately, and it has taken its toll on my spirit. My body is tired, my soul aches, and my heart is broken. Loss can pull us under for a time, leaving us searching for a stronghold to pull us back up toward the sun.

Looking for a needed escape for my spirit, I came to a place where I feel more like myself – the blessed beach.  I came with my family and arms filled with prayers for direction and peace … seeking a answers from a shoreline that I knew.

We headed to Tybee Island, off the coast of Georgia – a spot where my family held annual summer  reunions as a child. I came back to a happy place, although it had been 30 years since my last visit. We traveled from Atlanta to Savannah, and I finally saw what I’d been seeking: bridges. Bridges away from the heavy mainland onto an island of light breezes and wide open sunsets. I smiled as her familiar scenery began to pass by my window.

Crossing the bridges, we traveled over the welcoming green marshes … I felt myself exhale. Aaaaah, I am here. This is where I belong. Please, God, help me find something this weekend, help some healing to begin. Seeing the breezes rippling waves over the grasses as we entered the island, I finally saw the end of the road hit the shoreline in the distance.

The ocean. The life force of the world. I closed my eyes and smiled. The children cheered from the backseat as we found our way to a little vintage cottage just blocks from the beach.

Heaven (with mosquitos). Read more

What Consumes Your Mind, Controls Your Life

“What consumes your mind, controls your life.”

What you decide to obsess over in your mind, ruminating … reviewing … rewinding … will ultimately be what controls you.

It will be the CENTER SCREEN of your life.

And unless you change your mind – and change the channels – you will continue to see the frustrating flicker of that thing, that face, that obsession because you can’t seem to move past whatever it is that has a hold on you.

If you are nodding your head, you have been there – or you are there right now. You know what focus has taken control of your thoughts, your dreams and your decisions. And deep down, you know that you know that you know that you need to find a way to push it away … push it out of the control tower of your mind.

You feel your energy being depleted and your time being sucked away, but for some reason you have held on. And it just might be the biggest secret you are carrying around. When you are honest with yourself, however, you know none of it is good for you at all. Not one bit. In fact, it is hurting you time after time after time.

It is taking over your heart, hijacking your once vibrant mind and eclipsing the creative energy that used to flow from your soul. And likely someone close to you has said, “Do you realize how much time you spend talking about that/him/her/them?”

Do you?   Read more

Do Not Let the Behavior of Others Do This To You

“Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.” Dalai Lama

When I read this quote by the Dalai Lama, I immediately saw two independent pieces:

1) ‘the behavior of others’

2) ‘your inner peace’

They are separated in the sentence because they exist in two different places in space, unless you choose to let the two swirl together and take on the energy of the other. And so the Dalai Lama offers you the most empowering reminder between these two:

1) The behavior of others is not your burden.

2) You have the power to choose if something destroys your inner peace.

POWERFUL. I am talking about YOU – YOU ARE POWERFUL.

You have the authority over your own peace. You were born to nurture and care for the strong, peaceful spirit inside of you – as it was also born to nurture and care for you. While we can feel wounded when we are betrayed and otherwise not treated as our authentic selves, it is up to us what happens to our peace next. Read more

I Want to Know You … And I Want to Be Known

I am here because I want to be with you and get to know you.

And I want to be known.

Known for who I am on the inside instead of what you see on the outside.

Known in a sense that you ask about more than where I work and where I went to school. Known in a sense that you understand where my passion sleeps and why my dreams are so.

Known in a sense that when you walk away from here you can say “She is that kind of person” and use beautifully true words to describe who I really am. Because you listened. And I listened to you.

Let’s not do that thing that I am so tired of doing. Let’s not surround ourselves with the vapor of meaningless conversation that will eventually settle to the floor and disappear in a shade of gray dust long after we are gone.

You look lovely tonight, but please don’t stand here in your shiny shoes and tell me where they are from and spark about what designer is wrapped around you because that is not why I am here. Let’s not dwell on the specifics of things or the pulp of last night’s gossip … because that will only leave me here with a feeling of emptiness and stagnancy, and my spirit is aching for something to rise to meet it. Read more

© 2016 Doctor Karin Luise