Today remember that you have complete control over how much power negative things have over you . . . and that power can also draw positive things your way.
Feelings come up.
Negative emotions rise to the surface.
We are inclined to dwell the strongest on what feels the worst.
Guess what? You are in charge of the direction of your own ship. Abraham Hicks talks about how dwelling on something for 17 seconds increases the chance that your happiness, your vibration and your experience of the world will be rewired into one that goes down the rabbit hold of negativity.
Here’s how the loop works: Moment or Memory of the experience –> painful emotion –> gut reaction to dwell and obsess over the negative experience –> continued return to the impulse to focus on the negative –> body re-experiences negative emotions –>Moment or Memory of the experience . . . etc.
This negative thought loop (‘stinkin’ thinkin’) treats your body badly. Not only does it pull you into a mental mess of confusion and fear, but it sends signals to your physical body that stress hormones need to be released. If you are constantly telling your body to release the stress hormone cortisol, you are not only putting yourself in a bad emotional state, you are lowering your body’s ability to fight disease and maintain wellness.
This is something you can take charge of RIGHT NOW.
Next time you find yourself focusing – dwelling – on something that makes you feel fear, anger or self-doubt, get in your own way. STOP your focus. Get in there before 17 seconds pull you under.
Say, “Stop. Do not dwell. Refocus.” Out loud.
See yourself swiping those negative thoughts out of the screen in your brain, just like you would swipe away something on your touch screen. SCHWOOP! GONE!
Take a deep breath.
Decide now that you are going to flip it.
Here is a prayer you can say for extra support:
“Thank you, God, for that experience and the lesson that I am learning from it. Please show me the lesson loud and clear. I release the negative emotions about what happened and ask that you take them into Your Light.
I will not allow it to define how I feel about myself or what I believe about the world today.
I fully and unconditionally accept myself and move back into a place of peace.”
Replace the negative thoughts with something that feels GOOD. Yes. You. Can. It only takes one second.
If you are having trouble, do this:
Pick up an inspirational book & read a paragraph.
Turn on a positive You Tube video for a short minute.
Read some inspirational quotes from Google.
Call your best friend and ask for a boost.
Express gratitude and let a smile warm your face.
By doing so, you have flipped the stinkin’ thinkin’ into something that is sweet for your mind, body and spirit.
You have called back in PEACE and JOY. This is your natural state of being. Be in charge of keeping their company.
Where are you today? I encourage you to take several moments of silence at different points in your day to check in with yourself – your body, mind, heart and spirit. They need your attention and get a little bit of a tune up when you tune in.
Personally, I am in a place where I am making major shifts regarding old thinking and getting rid of those things and thoughts that no longer serve me – specifically fear and shame. Call it a ‘cleaning house’ kind of season. I am sure you can relate.
After much research and meditation on spiritual awareness and growth, I know one thing for sure: If something does not resonate with you on a level of JOY, PEACE or HOPE, it is not meant for you to carry any longer.
That means taking a real look at an uncomfortable feeling that arises, an object that you have held onto, a relationship that you have been struggling with, or a thought that is on a negative loop inside your head.
Ask yourself: What is this thing, thought, feeling or person doing for me – for my life?
Do you feel joy, peace or hope when you zero in on it, him or her? Or do you feel fear, shame, confusion or a stinging spit in your gut? There is your sign. There is your direction. Whatever is bringing you to a place of JOY is your spirit’s true residence, and those things are meant to reside WITH you. ALONGSIDE you for the journey.
If not, these things serve as mud puddles, pits of quicksand or stinging tar under your feet. Stopping you, keeping you constantly looking behind you, putting you in a place of fear or pain that stops you from moving in the direction that your spirit really wishes to travel.
My home sometimes gets too familiar when I am trying to push at my seams.
Stepping on Legos, scattered flip-flops and spilled goldfish crackers each time I walk into a room gets in the way of my Zen. So I took two trips to get a new perspective on life – to see who I am from a different latitude.
Both were adventures that changed my life for a thousand reasons – here are my top 8.
My trips of choice were the 1) TED Women 2015 Conference in Monterey, CA and 2) Gabrielle Bernstein’s Spirit Junkie Master Class in New York City.
What makes you feel SMALL? Fear, anger, insecurity, bitterness.
They all make you shrink into a littler you by the moment.
What makes you feel BIG, MEANINGFUL … HUGE?? Gratitude, love, happiness.
Then why aren’t you filling up with it every moment that you can? I have an idea.
Let’s go back to your childhood, where you learned how to live:
Were you taught to listen to your heart and do things that made you happy? Did you learn how to put your own needs first and find joy by choosing it? Were you taught to listen to your inner guidance system to find that personal joy?
My guess is that your answers are mostly: “No.” Read more